When we were born, our minds were like blank slates – no experiences, no judgments, no fear we only enjoyed the flow of our own inner curiosities.
But as time passed to fit in, we are turned into puppets and such high standards are set up that without reaching up to those bars we are not successful or beautiful. Our soul which is limitless and can’t be caged or marred ultimately gets shackled by these unrealistic expectations and critical evaluations.
We all remember the famous quote from Holy Bible that children are the gifts of God; then why these gifts are molded or crushed in a way as others want us to see? Gifts are to be treasured, you’re not supposed to fix them. Rather than cherishing the uniqueness of personalities, we are molded into some different identities just to survive in this rat race.
The famous old saying-“Time heals everything.” This shows the inability to take responsibility for our lives and leaving our baggage of unresolved emotions on the shoulders of time. This saying is inappropriate because nothing heals until we take any conscious action to move past it.
If you do not Act on Life, Life will Act on You. – ROBIN S. SHARMA
Yes, it’s true when you run away from your wounds and unresolved emotions, life, again and again, makes you go through the same pain by bringing you into the confrontation with the same issue from which you were trying your best to run away.
Instead of facing our inner demons, we continuously repeat the miseries in our minds like a story. “I’m not good enough. ” “I can’t do this.” “Why this happens to me always?”
Our mind repeats those incidents as a story to us and our throats get choked in a way that neither we can share those thoughts with someone nor we can bear the weight of those wounded emotions. Our bottled-up self wants to get rid of them but…
Some trapped souls don’t even know what exactly bogs them down each time, which past events are making them feel so. These stagnant emotions create deviations in our behavior and either we start beating or punishing ourselves by constant negative self-talk or we tend to blame others for our plight.
We try to numb our emotions ( which are just asking your attention to just feel them once ) with alcohol, and drugs and throw ourselves in a bottomless pit to suffer endlessly.
Enveloped by the fog of fear of suffering, we are reluctant to realize that our struggle to win our sufferings, will pave the road for our future and enlightened versions of ourselves.
This will happen by taking the responsibility for our lives into our hands. Because as we will change the river of our actions, these stubborn rocks can be broken down by the power of the determined waves to bring some change in our lives.
So, taking responsibility for our lives is the first step toward healing our wounded selves.
ManoSathi 